My thoughts on people who use body language to talk about you behind your back.

 Since I am currently unable to come up with something clever to say to start of this post, I suppose I will start it with a short tale.


Today, I was sitting in class, and as I frequently do, I became annoyed. Feeling the need to vent I spouted something sarcastic. After having said what I did, my I felt as though my venting was complete, so I began to turn my attention back to the teacher, and on their way there, my eyes noticed one of my classmates with a rather unfriendly look on their face...so my gaze stopped..then I saw the eye-roll. This was of course, in response to my soapbox. I get similar reactions from this person frequently. Actually, all he time.


Having recounted that little history to you, now I shall tell you my thoughts on this. Talking about someone behind their back is bad enough. But at least the person has the courage to say it out loud and the courage to brave the possibility of becoming "one of those people" who talk about people behind their backs. But when use body language to make derogatory remarks  about someone behind their back, the only thing you accomplish is showing that you are a giant coward. People like that should aspire to become "one of those people." At least they have the balls to say (or type) what they  think. To conclude, first let me say that I in no way promote the talking about others behind their back. Second, if you think me to be a hypocrite, I would like to point out that I am not talking about this specific person, or at least not directly. I am merely using this story as an example to prove a point. This person is a very nice, funny, caring person, good hearted, I believe, at their core, but they just so happened to spark my thoughts today, therefore, I blog.  Also, I would like to confess my guilt in the same crime. There is not a single person in this world who can claim innocence in this case. But it is important that everyone, myself included, realize that people can see us. Just as someone may overhear someone talking, one can "Over-see" someone doing.I hope you will work on this. I know I certainly will.-TheRinker

TheRinker's Rules to Thanking

After Much Pondering and debate(mostly with myself), about my last post (November 8th), I have decided to compile the following list for the proper protocol of thanking.

1-      Never sound sarcastic! Unless you mean to sound sarcastic, and the sarcasm is meant in a joking manner, at least attempt to sound sincere. A failed attempt is better than blatant sarcasm. Although I didn't discuss this in my last post, I felt it necessary to say not
2-     a.When someone opens a door for you, thank them.
        b.When someone opens two consecutive doors for you in a period of about 10 or 15 seconds of each other, thank for the 1st, the second is not necessary. The "momentum" from the first thank you should be sufficient for the second.
        c.However if there is a 3rd door, in a period of 30 seconds or so, thank for the 1st and 3rd.
        d.If you are know that the door-holder and yourself are going to the same place and there will be several doorholdings, thank for the 1st and last.
        e.If the doorholdings are more than 30 seconds apart, thank for each.
        f.If someone is showing you around somewhere, like giving a tour, thank for only the 1st door, and if you are certain that a particular door is the last, thank for the last. This goes back to "d".
       g.When in doubt, just thank. But ALWAYS observe rule #1.